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Love... What is that thing? CRAZY! That's what! It was very intense to read your question because I wanted to put myself in your position for a moment... I couldn't do it... so my advice probably will not reflect me feeling like I'm on your level (but I'll try my best not to be bias in any way).
It's kind of tough for me to answer your question directly so I'm going to break it down and give you several answers. These first two will give suggestions on attempting to fix the physical attraction factor... before we even begin to consider you being asexual.
Is the lack of physical attraction due to the fact that your significant other is out of shape?
If so, try to find fun activities for you both to do, such as Bike tours.. (click this for site), it's a fun work out and it's like $40 bucks per bike for the whole day, Helmet is included and $5 for a basket. You can bring sandwiches made of turkey and cheese on whole wheat bread and fruits and water, and get into shape together while having a romantic day and sparking that attraction over again. Take a jog together. Help your significant other get to where you can be physically attracted to them, and work on your bod at the same time... Why not? lol ;)
Is the lack of physical attraction due to something on/off/ or about their body that no longer "does it for you"?
If so, I'm attempting to picture what could be wrong and the only things that can come to mind that would be game-changers for me are like amputated limbs...or deformation (which if you're in love shouldn't matter anyway). Unfortunately I don't know what the situation may be.. so you might have to consider maybe talking to your significant other about this issue you're having. You can't go wrong with telling them your feelings. After all, you say you are in love with this person, so you should be able to share intimate thoughts without even a second thought. If you are attempting to look out for this person's feelings, eventually everything done in the dark comes to light and it will hurt them to find out later, in an alternate way that you are no longer physically attracted to them.
Now then... you said you're not attracted to anyone... and you're wondering if you're asexual.... Let's not jump the gun here. I had to look up asexuality to make sure I fully understood what it meant. So naturally I went to the most reliable source on the Internet WIKIPEDIA!! (click) LMFAO, but when they mentioned a Japanese chef, named Mao Sugiyama, surgically removing his genitals and serving them to customers.... uh... I decided to look for a more reliable source. That's when I stumbled upon AVEN's Site (click) they offer a much easier to understand definition of asexuality, and if this is really what you're feeling you might benefit from this site because they are an asexual community. You can talk to people who feel the same way and can help you better understand yourself.
Sexuality is another tough thing to understand. I've been attempting to come up with a blog involving steps and ways to "come out of the closet" for anyone who may need help with that, but I feel like nothing I write can ever make it any easier. I hope I've made sense to you regarding your issue... and thanks for the email... Later Gater!
<3,
Sherry
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